alcoholics and their selfishness

today i went to my grandma's new house and seen how she remodeled it (i didn't see how it used to look before my grandma fixed it up). it's a nice house and i guess she plans to let my mom live there and to put a wheelchair ramp there as well, so that i'm able to go in the house easily. i think that my mom really doesn't care to live there because she thinks my grandma will probably have her doing a lot of things. i can see where my mom is against living with my grandma but she used to live with her before her house burnt down and didn't have a problem with it. my grandma blurted out that if my mom lived with her, she could take care of her and be close to me. i don't know if my mom will live with her though, only time will tell.
my grandma was also crying this afternoon when she told me that she really didn't want to bury a son but the doctors told her that if my uncle continued to drink as much as he does, he won't live longer than another year and she even offered him money to go into rehab but he wouldn't do it and so she said that she didn't know what else to do and she was crying. it sucks that he doesn't even care enough that it hurts his mom so much that she even cries to at least try to quit drinking. he just says that he knows he's an alcoholic.